Mamasan is speechless

Wow.

Um… welll… I – er… wow.  I don’t even know how that would work.  I’m just a collection of random thoughts at the moment.

Can they even get undressed in ten minutes?

I’m always hearing this “filet mignon vs hamburger” analogy – so this must be, what, eating microwave pizza straight from the freezer?

Did they ask for MSOG?  (LOL.)

Don’t they have wives for that?  No, seriously, isn’t the whole point to hobbying that your wife/girlfriend won’t give you more than an occasional pokey (“Hurry up, I have to meet Josie for lunch”) so the real knock-out, sweaty, wild sessions with the biggest menu possible is where the real fun happens?

Did they mention gift cards to Target? 

Gawd, I don’t know whether to laugh or sit here with my WTF face on.  Off to go search for ten-minute reviews.  This ought to be good.

What to do when you have no references

I don’t think a week has gone by yet without those pleading posts from new hobbyists.

“Help!  I’m new and the girls just won’t see me.  I send polite emails, I’m a good guy, I’m not asking anything crazy.  What do I do?”

Apparently, “learn to read” would be at the top of the To-Do list, because dollars to donuts there was a damned near identical thread just five threads down from yours wherein you could have found all the answers.  Unless you’re so clueless that everyone’s laughing at you, you’ll get the same answers the last guy did, and the guy before him, and the guy before him, etc etc ad nauseum.  In the intersts of saving everyone some time, I’ll just put all those answers right here, shall I?

Stop cruising BP/CL.  That’s a world best left to the hobbyists for whom the thrill of the hunt is half (or more) of the fun.  Yes, it’s cheap.  There’s no such thing as a free lunch, though, and you’ll spend a great deal more finding that diamond in the rough than you would have by scheduling with a reliable, reviewed independent.  Leave BP/CL for the specialists, O Clueless One.

Most of those “help me” posts come from guys who sifted through ads and showcases to find three or four likely gals in whom they had an interest, and only posted for help when the ladies wouldn’t answer or see them.  (And cue whining that no one answered their requests.)  WRONG!  Clearly, you are thinking that all of the ladies you see advertised are available to you.  Clearly, this is not so.  You see all of those notices near the contact information about sending references in your inquiry?  Oh.  You just skimmed all that nonsense to get to the good stuff about how to contact them for some fun.  Well, we’ll back up and start at the beginning.

Read the damned ad.  Then read her signature at the bottom of the ad.  She didn’t type all that out for jollies, you know.  If she said to send references in your initial email, she meant it.  If she does not explicitly state she is “newbie friendly”, she probably isn’t.  If she explicitly states that she is NOT “newbie friendly”, rest assured that she not only damned well meant it and isn’t going to make an exception for you, but you’re going to piss her off and all her friends will have a good laugh at your expense once she passes your email around (and she will).

Do a search in the provider ad section for your local area of “newbie-friendly”.  Those are the ladies from which you get to choose.  Save the bitching about how your money is just as good as anyone else’s, because it isn’t.  You’re new.  You have no references.  The lady who sees you first, or second, will be taking a great risk in doing so, and frankly, most ladies don’t consider the return on investment to be worth it.

Now that you have found newbie-friendly providers, sort through to find two or three you would like to see.  Send each of them an email inquiry to see about an appointment.  Mention that you are new and without references.  They will let you know what information you will need to send them in order to make an appointment.

Again, no bitching.  If you think a lady will see you with no references, no info, no means by which to assure herself that you are not a total psycho, you are a delusional moron.  Get it into your head right from the start that you will have to verify yourself somehow, or just go to the tittie bar and pray for a miracle because the hobby is not for you.

Now, you’ve found a newbie-friendly provider and have gotten through her screening process.  Great!  You’re not done yet though.  “Reference” does not mean merely that some lady was willing to see you.  Oho, nosir.  Mamasan remembers fondly the story (perhaps metaphorical, but still a damned funny story) about the newbie who got screened, showed up late for the appointment and shorted the envelope by twenty bucks, and was later stunned to discover that the lady wouldn’t give him a reference.  Further, the other newbie-friendly providers didn’t want to see him now either.

Referencing you is optional.  We don’t have to do it.  When we do give a reference, other ladies will only accept you on as a client when it is a GOOD reference; meaning you behaved well.  Also, we talk to each other a lot and have this thing called “alerts”.  Misbehave badly enough and your supply of fun will be cut off.  You don’t even really have to misbehave that badly – ladies are known to refuse you just because you annoyed someone else and they found out about it.  Remember, you’re already on thin ice by being new.  Don’t make it any harder on yourself by also being an idiot. 

To recap:

Read the ads.  Search “newbie-friendly”.  Send a decent email inquiry.  Comply with screening requirements for newbies.  Behave well at the appointment.  Rinse and repeat until you have enough reputable references to see the ladies of your choice.

A few final pointers:

Some provider references are worth more than others.  Invest time into researching the most reputable of the newbie-friendly ladies.  The dividends will pay off when you find that other ladies will sometimes accept one highest-quality reference on its own.

Conversely, some references aren’t worth dick.  It pays to know who the ditzy flakes are.  A drunk, low-dollar B&G with a reputation for poor service and NCNS is probably considered unreliable by the providers as well.

Don’t try to circumvent the referencing system.  You’ll be butting your head against a brick wall,and while you won’t be the first to try to convince himself that we can’t really take it THAT seriously, trust Mamasan that we do indeed.  There are no shortcuts.  This is how it’s done.

Google is fun, plus a can of worms

Someone found my blog using “p411 bbfs” as search terms.  Hello!  Bet YOU were just a wee bit surprised.  Nasty git, now go Google “oozing sores” and cover it up.

Still no healthcare wanking.  And I was so looking forward to it.  Imagine the potential!  The angst.  The woe.  The public statements of DNSing hobbyists and providers alike, merely for their politics.  Hobby community, if we can keep this subject wank-free for the rest of the week then Mamasan will say, well played.  Well played indeed.

Now, on to today’s snarking.  I know you know which thread is coming up.  You saw it and thought right off, “Ooh, this’ll be on Mamasan’s blog by the end of the day.”  How right you were, my friends.

The Last Words of Big Pimpin

Let me just get this out of the way, real quick-like, and then we can get to the discussion.  His wife was so completely standing over his shoulder as he typed that.  Bet you half a dollar.  (It’s part of standard couples therapy in regards to adultery now, you know.)

Big Pimpin, you are such a pussy.  And that’s all I have to say on him (surprise!).

My snark here is a related subject which 1) you can find illustrated in the linked thread and 2) has been kind of, sort of, rather (really) bothering the hell out of me for some time now.  It’s on this notion that it’s all the wife’s fault if her husband hobbies.  Well, if she’d have kept him happy at home…  Well, if she hadn’t nagged him…  Well, if she hadn’t driven him to it…

I’ll be the one to say it:  That’s such a crock of shit.

In the interests of full disclosure, I can be seen on Sarah’s blog stating that I think one of her recent blog posts on a less-extreme version of “why men hobby” sounds fairly accurate, and on my own blog quoted as saying, “They’re not bad, they’re lonely” of some of my own customers.

Not here to claim that women cannot be blamed – oftentimes, a measure of culpability can be leveled at them quite legitimately.  She took little pains with her appearance.  She treated him with scorn, disrespect, or as a tiresome duty.  Worse, she treated him as an ATM.  She was too busy to give the level of attention he desires to his physical and emotional needs.   She became sexless, or nearly so.  

All of these are very real, and very compelling, arguments that the woman holds some share of blame when her man strays.  What it doesn’t do is excuse him utterly. 

We’ve all seen the “My wife this” and “My wife that” on the boards, and providers have even heard it in session.  I’m willing to bet there’s a large percentage of truth in every one of those complaints, too.  What I’ve always wondered to myself is, what would the wife say about her hobbyist husband if we asked?  Big Pimpin made a (possibly forced, but let’s not speculate too wildly or we’ll never get anywhere) confession to verbally abusing his wife.  I’d imagine making nasty remarks to your life-partner has something to do with why she’s not aroused by you.

Is anyone really deluding themselves that ALL hobbyists are just charming, perfect husbands plagued with she-devil wives who drove the poor dears mercilessly into the arms of another woman? 

Being an adult means owning your own shit and working to resolve it.  You aren’t getting enough nookie from the little woman.  Well, have you asked her for more?  Have you had a frank discussion with your wife about the desire for passion in your marriage, and then followed up on this by doing things you think might make her more passionate towards you?  Bring home flowers from work.  Buy her a sexy nightie.  Kiss the back of her neck for no reason while she’s cooking your dinner or folding your socks.  Take her out on a date, fer crissake’s, and get her piss-faced drunk on good wine and then take her home where there are NO CHILDREN because you’ve wisely packed them off to your mother’s for the night, and shag like college kids.

She says something nasty and disrespectful.  Have you looked into counseling?  Mention to her that this sort of talk is not appropriate and makes you feel as if she despises you.   

She doesn’t look as good as she once did.  Buddy, I’m pretty certain you don’t either.  Join a gym with her.  Read to her an article about the risk of heart attack and tell her seriously you think you both ought to be more careful about your diet.  Reinforce any positive changes – if she’s finally put on makeup, tell her how pretty she looks.

Make a bloody effort, gents.  What can YOU do to fix the state of your home life and, specifically, your bedroom shenanigans. 

And if you’ve taken her to counseling, told her how pretty she looks on the occasions she makes some effort to look good, helped her diet, bought her nice things and flowers and done the dishes for her and packed the kids off to her mother’s so you could have alone time, had many honest and open discussions on the state of your marriage and your respective needs, and she’s still a rotten bitch…  Give a provider a call, because you’ve done all you can and, dammit, everyone needs to feel special and have the occasional sweaty orgasm.  You, sir, should hobby guilt-free with a piece of work like that at home to deal with.    

No one among you needs justify yourself to Mamasan.  I already assume most of my clientele (but then, I’m choosy) and the gents I like to converse with online have done what an adult needs to do.  

It annoys the piss out of me when I hear providers go on about, “Well, if she’d take better care of her man…”   Blah, blah, blah.  Shaddup.  Better yet, grow up.  You’re a woman, for the love of all that’s holy, you know exactly what it’s like to deal with men.  Some guys are sex addicts.  Some guys are assholes.  Come talk to Mamasan when you’re my age and tell me it’s all a woman’s fault.  When hobbyists go on about how their wife is a total shit and providers have attitude problems and whine, whine, no one understaaaaands me – I’m more inclined to think the problem is him, not whatever woman he’s blaming his life choices on today. 

A large portion of the hobby is that people make shitty decisions in life.  They’re bad husbands, or merely husbands who don’t communicate well.  Goofy women who haven’t fit themselves out for proper work or are incapable of living a responsible life, and turned to escorting because they left themselves little option.  The rest of us are just a bit tired of your self-justifying drivel.  Own your shit and move on – don’t wallow in all this “nothing is ever my fault” nonsense.

Bringing the crazy

So there I was.  Poked the internet in a lazy sort of manner a time or two, but it looked like no one was planning to go insane this weekend.  Hurrah for two rational days in a row!

I spoke too soon.  I bring you not one, not two, but THREE cases of complete WTFery.  Two in one thread.

 Do escorts need to like their clients?  Fluff question with an obvious answer, which explains why Mamasan didn’t catch this sooner.  No, we won’t tolerate a client who makes us want to claw his eyes out.  Screening exists for a reason.  Which is what the ladies said, in some variation, for a page. 

A fairly relaxed consensus was too much for one dipshit, whose main points seem to be that all providers are liars and that what’s actually for sale is their dignity.  Yea verily and forsooth, says this master of his domain, there is no provider who can pay their rent on time and therefore they will all be too desperate to ever turn down money.  Furthermore, providers cannot be truthful about hobbyists because that would lose them business, ergo all nice things providers say are bullshit.

Not that he’s bitter.

I would have passed this one up all by its onesies – the ladies seem to have everything well in hand – but then we get our second “Wait, seriously?” moment.  And it’s from a provider.

if you ever wanna know how much a provider likes you, try NOT PAYING at the end of the session.. all the “i like you” goes out the window..

Ah, that’s precious.  Set up an appointment for the purposes of theft of service.  If we’re a total doormat about being robbed, then perhaps we might be genuine.  Otherwise (aHA!) we’re just a bunch of lying liars and this proves we secretly disliked you from the start.

Is there anyone out there among you, dear readers, who is seriously contemplating this method of determining whether our fondness within a client/provider relationship is real?   If so, you’re a fucking idiot.  Mamasan has spoken.

Patty Hearst here needs to take a deep breath, and probably quite a lot of Prozac.  I’m really curious if this desperate ass-kissing style of business nets her more sessions.  Perhaps this is all merely a clever ruse to get a significant percentage of hobbyists blacklisted by other ladies, so they have no choice but to see her.  We may never know.

But wait!  Our dear Patty cannot stop there.  The gentlemen responding don’t seem to have taken to her fabulous plan, so she restates it in case they didn’t fully grasp her brilliance the first time around.

Its pretty far off base to assume ladies are only seeing guys they “like”, since so many are seen complaining in coed all the time about guys smells, guys attitudes, guys this and guys that.. so therefore they aren’t seeing “sure things”.. they are taking money from guys they would never give the time of day otherwise.. Don’t pay after BCD and see how much she likes you

Only this time she’s trying to convince the gents that all their lady friends are talking mad smack about them in the backchannel (the nasty bitches!).  See, gents?  Don’t see all those other yucky ladies.  Better yet, go see them and then don’t pay them.  Expecting payment for services rendered, bah!  Don’t worry, Honest Patty will be around to take real good care of you after those trash-talking meanies toy with you like that. 

Funny, I thought Eccie had policies about talking in public about what’s said in the backchannels.  This gal claims quite openly to be revealing info from the PIE.  Any takers on a bet of mod action here?  Anyone?  Buehler?

Which leaves us with Stupid Git #3.  What is it with Dallas hobbyists and gift cards?

The donation

It’s almost the first question every wanna-be escort asks, right behind, “How much can I make?” and “But what do you do if…”

How much should I charge?

The easy answer is, “How much are you worth?”

I’ll not touch on issues of non-FS, such as FBSM, because Mamasan has never been in that side of the business.  If any ladies reading this are, and feel they’ve got some valuable insights, please do email me. 

First thing you do:  Research the local market.  Read ads, visit websites, talk to other ladies.  Take an honest inventory of your skills, menu and appeal and then find independent ladies whose offerings are in a similar range.  Whatever their donations are, is what you should eventually be able to ask without much trouble.

Second thing:  Ignore any advice from hobbyists, especially of the unsolicited sort.  There are good hobbyists out there who will school you on the business with the best of intentions, hoping only for your success.  If you’re new enough to be uncertain about your donation, you are too new to know these guys from the cuntrags.    Yes, I’m sure he seems all nice and sweet.  Don’t argue.  There are guys out there who make a specialty of finding new, impressionable girls and exploiting them until the girl wises up or runs away in tears as far from the hobby world as she can get.  And to newbies, they look and sound just like the good guys.

Just stay away from all male advice until you’ve learned the basics.  You will thank me later.

So.  You’re not taking suggestions from the men, and you know about what similar ladies in your area are asking for donations.  Now, take that figure and drop it by ten percent.

You’re arguing again, I can hear it from here.  “But Mamasan, I’m new and fresh and these guys’d better recognize-”

Doesn’t work like that, sweets.  You’re new and fresh, sure, and stated another way you’re inexperienced and unproven.  No one knows you, you have no skin in the game, the hobbyists haven’t a clue what you’re like.  Are you a flake?  Dunno.  Are you on crack?  They don’t know.  Are you even any good at this?  Not a damned clue. 

From a hobbyist’s perspective, he’s got several hundred dollars.  It can either go to you, a potential waste of hard-earned cash for no benefit but some consoling pats on the back after he takes one for the team, or the same amount of cash can go to a lady he’s already seen and knows will give good value.   

Most guys won’t even hesitate.  They’ll see the lady who has already proven herself, and leave you to possibly sucker some other guy.  Getting into the game means giving them a good reason to run the risk of TOFTT.  Best way to do this is to offer comparable appeal and menu for ten percent less.

Relax.  It’s temporary.  Give yourself three to six months at the “new girl” rate.  After you’ve got a rookie-level client base built up and a review or five, or at least some decent word of mouth, move your donation back to what the other ladies are asking.  Grandfather some of your best guys, and close your ears to any bitching that comes down the pipe about Golden Pussy Syndrome.  Most of the crybabies weren’t guys you were seeing anyway, and those men wouldn’t be happy until you started $60 FS + Greek.

What’s Golden Pussy Syndrome?  It usually sounds like this, “She thinks her pussy is made of gold, such a shame, sure hope her 401k is real damn healthy because she’ll get no business now with an attitude like that, back in the day she used to know how to work in this business but now that she’s gotten all uppity…”  Whine, whine, whine.  If you hear this from gents you’ve actually seen BCD more than once, you’ve got a problem.  Otherwise, in one ear and out the other.  Most of it comes from message board posters who weren’t your target client base, and never will be.

The donation schedule should be reviewed periodically to decide whether it is still appropriate.  The simple rule is, if you aren’t getting enough appointments then you need to either up your level of service or lower your rates.  If you’re beating them off with a stick, raise your rates.  Small, cautious rate changes to offset inflation are fine but watch carefully and be ready to go back to your usual donation if business appears slim.

Multi-hours, overnights and trips.  Plan ahead – most new girls establish hourly rates and then are taken by surprise when a guy asks for more time, and aren’t sure what to tell him.

Incall is expected to be on your dime.  That’s called overhead, sweetheart.  All businesses have overhead, and (surprise!) you’re running a business.  Net profits are what you have left over after you’ve paid your business expenses.  THAT is what you live your personal life on.  Budget accordingly.

It is SOP for the hourly rate to cover usual overheads in your immediate area.  If a gent requests a specific location which is not near to you - your incall is in downtown San Antonio and he wants you to drive to Kerrville – it’s normal and even expected to ask for a surcharge to cover additonal expenses and time.  $50 or so is fine.  If he wants you to drive from downtown San Antonio to Kingsville, he should expect to pay an appropriately higher surcharge.   

At some point in your new career, you may become the flavor of the month.  Do not let this go to your head and start charging twenty percent more than anyone else.  It’s temporary lemming behavior and will go away, and then won’t YOU look like a jackass.  Just continue to ride the wave at your usual donation and make sure to provide quality service to properly screened gents.  If, weeks and weeks later, you are still inundated with requests for sessions, go ahead and raise the donation at that point.  You’ll have earned it, not by being the newest fad but by becoming a justifiably popular, proven lady.  Congrats, you’re in the big time now, baby.

A few final tips. 

Never discuss rates and menu.  You have ads and websites for all they need to know about the donation.  For preference, never discuss your menu at all. 

Donation does not equal class.  $800 with two-hour minimums cannot buy dignity, and neither can $100 B&G take it away.  Class is who you are, not how much you make.  Now go out there and prove it.

Say it with me, ladies - ”I do not negotiate”.  There’s always some joker who thinks he’s such a special snowflake that he deserves a better deal than what you give to all the lovely gents who’ve taken the time to establish a regular client relationship.  DNS the fucker and move on.

Shall we tell him?

I’m sending this guy a bill for a new monitor, as I spit coffee on mine when I read his post.

I can’t get action from providers! What am I doing wrong!?  Can anybody tell me what I am doing wrong! I called Iris from backpage about two weeks ago for an outcall I didn’t argue over the donation, I wasn’t rude, I speak proper english and texted my address like she requested. She told me she will be there within 35 minutes, LIE, one hour later she is not answering my calls. I asked for a courtesy call or message through text but she didn’t reply and I gave up. The following week I called her and asked for her services again. She asked me to text her my address and again was a no call no show!! Well, I called Maria from backpage that same day and we came to an agreement on a donation. She told me she can be at my place in 45min. One hour came and went and no show. I called her and she told me her gps said 35 to arrival so I patiently waited. After another hour I called her back and she didn’t answer. Yesterday I called Dani from backpage who also gave me the run around and was a no call no show as well!! Three providers have stood me so I am wondering what is going on. I follow everything they ask on their ads I am hispanic just like them, I don’t argue on donation, live in a private secure complex, and don’t get an attitude when they don’t show when they said so what am I doing wrong?? Can anybody help me with this problem

Lordie.  Sweets, there’s nothing wrong with you that a clue-by-four upside the head wouldn’t cure.  Just to prove my point:

I’m done with hispanic providers i’m going back to asians.

I’ll get to the attitude problem in a minute, I’d just like to say:  In Texas?  Fucking good luck with that.  How new must you be to even threaten a “No Latina” policy?  Readers, we have a winner here!  I can tell. 

So.  Attitude problem.  Lack of research.  Calls providers at a quarter past f’ing midnight and expects immediate appointment.  Calls BP girls (motto: Caveat emptor, AHAHAHA).  No apparent references.  No apparent brains.  Asks about money after reading an ad (in Houston!).  Calls providers who have already NCNS’ed him. 

And yet, he is so puzzled, he is, as to WHY he is not getting any action.  Sacre bleu!  It is so strange, eh wot?  Whatever could possibly be the problem?

Dude, you’re like a toddler waving around a loaded gun.  You need a spanking, and I wonder at your parents.  If I ever catch you calling providers in the wee sma’s for no-notice/no-reference sessions again, I will personally bitch-slap you.

Sit down.  Read.  Research.  Call only proven ladies if you’ve got limited time/funds.  Learn how to spell “rookie”.  Like every good Texan, love the Latinas as much as you fear them, for they will shave your balls while you sleep and pour hot sauce on them.  Above all else, Mamasan’s Rule #1:  Good playtime is earned – no one owes you a damned thing.

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In an unrelated snark, a poster is faced with the inconceivable.  Providers will turn down my money?  The hell you say!  Everyone knows providers are so broke and desperate they’ll do anything for a few bills, even see him.  (LOLunintentionalirony) 

Fuck that puto.

That’s all I have to say on that.

For Chevalier – hobbyists and boards

Chevalier asks in a recent blog post:

• On average, are P4P clients “worse” than men in general?
• On average, are participants on review/discussion boards “worse” than P4P clients in general?
• If so, it it because boards attract that kind of person or create that kind of person?
• Is an alternative without the drawbacks, but still as a good target audience for the ladies’ advertising, feasible?

All remarkably good questions.  I’m devoting a blog to it as I’d suck up too much space in a comment.

Are hobbyists worse than men in general?  No, I don’t think so.  Like any cross-section of humanity, you’ll find some particularly scabby types, a few downright villainous characters, the odd touchy-sensitive crybaby. 

Most of my clientele are men aged 35-60, and are either sex addicts or starved for positive attention/playtime.  They’re not bad, they’re lonely.  I’m rather fond of many of them.

If anything, it’s possible that hobbyists are easier to deal with than civilian men.  The hobbyists will often know what they want and have no shame in communicating this to you, and discuss their needs freely (for men) to each other.  Whether they can translate these healthy habits over into their personal life is something I’ve never determined. 

Are male posters on hobby boards generally worse than hobbyists in general?  Yes.  God, yes.  In my (overstated) opinion, active board posters are emotionally needy men who seek out message boards for validation, not hobbying.  How emotionally needy correlates to how much they spam the board with their posts. 

Infrequent posters and lurkers are the true hobbiers.  They’re there to utilize the tools available to facilitate the hobby experience… and to make the occasional post on a thread that looks interesting, though this wasn’t the objective when they logged on.

Does the board attract or create the sort of poster found on their site?  Both.  A “hobbyist-friendly” board with a prediliction for spite and misogyny will attract more members like those already there.  Hobbyists found the board by looking for other hobbyists; those who aren’t hobbyists quickly go elsewhere.  Like seeks out like.

But, a man who squirmed at first upon seeing nasty words thrown about like confetti soon settles in.  When in Rome, and all that.  Parrot the views of your peers long enough and they will become your views as well, or near enough as to make no difference.

Is the creation of an alternative board possible?  Mamasan thinks anything is possible.  There’s certainly room enough on the web for more than one message board.  Perhaps more to the point is asking whether Eccie has what it takes to remain the only viable solution, which it is right now.  Mamasan doubts it.  The place is crumbling from within.  Ladies are walking out in rather alarming numbers, and some very quality ladies at that.  For all everyone loves to talk about “this board is for hobbyists” and “it’s about reviews for the guys”, we’ll have to see if they still maintain that the ladies are naught but mere afterthoughts on their boards when ladies become thin on the ground.

Thinner than they are already, I mean.

You can already find men posting on other sites that they are leaving Eccie because of the male attitude problems and the good women are jumping ship.  That is what Mamasan calls a “bad sign”.

Someone thinks he’s special

And the minions swing into action with a quickness.  Good catch, Anonymous.  This one’s got it all: cross-gender hysterics, martyrdom, epic failure-to-get-it, and nice potential for flouncing off in a huff.  Brilliant.

Wherein a Houston ASPD moderator demonstrates that, of all the things he learned in years of moderating and hosting, the one thing he did not learn from the December social raid is that, “It’s okay, he’s with me” is still a bad idea.

To sum it up:

A male mod asks a question to which he didn’t really want an answer.  He gets one anyway.  Cue reply of, “FINE, well, if you just DON’T LOVE ME then I guess I’ll shut up.  I’m a MOD, but what do I know after YEARS of killing myself for you people.  *sniff*” which is extraordinary mostly for the fact he doesn’t realize he sounds like his wife.  First respondent and another mod tell him his butt looks fine in those jeans try to calm him down.  He climbs up on his cross and does a Jesus impersonation.

Wank, wank, wank.

Friendship with a mod does not count as a BCD reference.  I’m rather surprised this question was even posed.  No, let me clarify:  I’m surprised this question was posed by a long-time mod and experienced hobbyist.  Idiots and n00bs ask it all the time. 

No, we will not call your buddy because he’ll say you’re “cool”.  No, we will not accept another hobbyist at a social saying, “Oh, yeah, sure, he’s a great guy.”  Listen close, gents, and I’ll tell you why not.

We’re asking different things.

YOU are saying that he’s amusing and you’d buy him a beer.  We want to know how often he showers, is he respectful to women, is he punctual, what triggers his jimmy and the jimmy’s rough dimensions.

If you can speak from personal experience on all that - including the last two - then Mamasan will accept a reference from a male hobbyist and promises to be very discreet about your relationship with him.  Until then?  Wanker, please.  Not only am I eyeballing your posts as prime “emotionally high-maintenance” red flag material, Mamasan is also getting strong whiffs that you think you and your hobby pals ought to be outside the normal rules and SOP because you are “important”.  Seriously?  You post on the internet.  That doesn’t make you important.  Go cure male pattern baldness or something and then get back to me.

New linkage

I’ve added another blog to the blogroll.  Inspired to Blog, captained by Sarah.  I like this gal, so few can do the sexy-Mum thing well, and without it coming off as… odd.  She does it fabulously.   I’m just as entertained reading about her son not cleaning up after himself as I am looking at pictures of her wearing what appears to be black PVC.  (Nice picture!)  And of course, her blog posts and comments seem very sensible in regards to hobby dynamics.  You all must know by now how much I like sensible.

Wherein everyone’s an idiot

Sigh.  It’s almost disheartening how easily and often I can find these instances wherein both parties need a good smacking and to be sent to their corners until they learn how to behave.

On the other hand, I’ll have no shortage of material for my blog.  Silver lining!

Dear Hot Mess,

Posting (in Co-Ed) that you can’t wait to leave Austin and you’ll never come back because one would-be hobbyist was rude to you is just goofy.  What were they supposed to do, apologize and promise to run him out of town on a rail?  Guarantee a hassle-free Austin for your touring convenience?  Just please, pretty please, come back and see us sometime?  Ridiculous.  When you blame the whole town for one man, don’t be surprised when the whole town snarls back.

You, missy, are not helping anyone.  And your posts make my brain hurt.

Dear “LOL, I’m rude, I RAWK!”,

You’re a twat.  Twelve year old girls can come up with better insults.  Congratulations for one of the bitchier posts in Co-Ed – perhaps we should have you tested for estrogen.  What is it that you do, exactly, which allows you to pay $250 an hour for a lady’s time and yet being only slightly more coherent than a fifth-grader is not a problem? 

I’m catagorizing you with the many other men who remain unable to comprehend that this board contains not just hobbyists, but many of the hottest nymphomaniacs in the nation.  And they’re reading your post, genius.  

Don’t cock-swing unless you want the ladies to see what you’ve got.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: No matter how cool your “bros” on a message board think you are, until the bros grow vaginas it isn’t going to get you laid.  Duh, twitterfuck.