Someone thinks he’s special
March 17, 2010
And the minions swing into action with a quickness. Good catch, Anonymous. This one’s got it all: cross-gender hysterics, martyrdom, epic failure-to-get-it, and nice potential for flouncing off in a huff. Brilliant.
Wherein a Houston ASPD moderator demonstrates that, of all the things he learned in years of moderating and hosting, the one thing he did not learn from the December social raid is that, “It’s okay, he’s with me” is still a bad idea.
To sum it up:
A male mod asks a question to which he didn’t really want an answer. He gets one anyway. Cue reply of, “FINE, well, if you just DON’T LOVE ME then I guess I’ll shut up. I’m a MOD, but what do I know after YEARS of killing myself for you people. *sniff*” which is extraordinary mostly for the fact he doesn’t realize he sounds like his wife. First respondent and another mod tell him his butt looks fine in those jeans try to calm him down. He climbs up on his cross and does a Jesus impersonation.
Wank, wank, wank.
Friendship with a mod does not count as a BCD reference. I’m rather surprised this question was even posed. No, let me clarify: I’m surprised this question was posed by a long-time mod and experienced hobbyist. Idiots and n00bs ask it all the time.
No, we will not call your buddy because he’ll say you’re “cool”. No, we will not accept another hobbyist at a social saying, “Oh, yeah, sure, he’s a great guy.” Listen close, gents, and I’ll tell you why not.
We’re asking different things.
YOU are saying that he’s amusing and you’d buy him a beer. We want to know how often he showers, is he respectful to women, is he punctual, what triggers his jimmy and the jimmy’s rough dimensions.
If you can speak from personal experience on all that – including the last two – then Mamasan will accept a reference from a male hobbyist and promises to be very discreet about your relationship with him. Until then? Wanker, please. Not only am I eyeballing your posts as prime “emotionally high-maintenance” red flag material, Mamasan is also getting strong whiffs that you think you and your hobby pals ought to be outside the normal rules and SOP because you are “important”. Seriously? You post on the internet. That doesn’t make you important. Go cure male pattern baldness or something and then get back to me.
Mamasan Speaks! 
March 17, 2010 at 3:36 pm
I’m pretty sure there are no hobbyists for whom I would even consider vouching. Even if the lady in question didn’t demand the same information/personal experience that you do. 😀
I do recall one time, I believe when I was a moderator, that some guy with whom I’d exchanged a few PMs, dropped my name when he scheduled with one of my favorites. She contacted me, of course. I told her that I didn’t know him, but I hoped he was just trying to break the ice rather than use me as a reference — because I wasn’t.
I don’t think enough people, from either side of the aisle, take vouching as seriously as they should. Don’t vouch for someone unless you are willing to get your ass chewed by the recipient of the vouch if anything goes wrong. You’re not offering a guarantee, but you shouldn’t give a vouch unless (or only to the extent that) you’re willing for her to rely on your word. So think about exactly what she’ll interpret your vouch to mean, and whether you would be willing not only to say that but also to stand behind it and take the blame if it turns out to be false.